Sometimes we try to forget what hurt us or who hurt us. I can honestly tell you that it’s nearly impossible to do so. It’s not how healing works. It’s not how grief works. Whether you want it to or not the memories are a part of you. It shapes you to who are and who you will become. You have to make room for all the memories. The happy memories and even the sad ones. You have to truly accept what happened and accept that they are a apart of you. You can’t force how they will affect you or how often they get brought. Be vulnerable to with yourself. Feel the emotion and the raw intensity of it. This can be the hardest part to do because this is when we will our weakest. If you have to, do it by yourself away from others but this portion of the process has to occur so you can heal.
Remember that the memories, the good and the bad were your yesterday’s. They are not your future.