Sometimes we have the power to try and save others. When we see someone care about going down a dark road we try our hardest to stop that journey from happening. Its within us to help others, its human nature.
One of the hardest things for me to do is realizing how far I’m willing to go to help another person. Sometimes I will go so far that I end up risking my health or more because I’m only focused on the one I’m helping.
I have come to realize that not everyone can be saved if they don’t want to save themselves. This can end up feeling like you lost a loved one and that the battle is done. I’m here to tell you that it’s ok to feel like this. It’s ok to hurt, to go through the motions. You are human.
Do not save others and risk your life in the process. Let the other person attempt the changes, knowledge them. Help when needed but know when to step back. It might not always be easy, if can be a downright struggle. Don’t start breaking down your own road to save someone else’s who doesn’t want a better life.
You cannot control the depth of a wound another soul inflicts on you. You can control if your willing to endure their struggles.
As my graduation from my University approaches I started thinking about what how much I fought to get where I am. Now let’s take a step back a few years.
High school was never easy for me. Fitting in wasn’t my thing, it was harder than what others may have gone through. Being biracial was hard because I didn’t just fit into one group, I mostly had to pick and choose. Being teased about it didn’t make it much easier. I ended up learning it never mattered what I looked on the exterior what what I had to offer from interior. It prepared me for the journey that I would have to take.
Back to the present.
I have honestly let the negativity I have experienced fuel my ambitions in life. If someone said I couldn’t do it, I’d prove them wrong no matter how long it took me. I had to prove to myself that I could do it. Leaving my abusive ex husband was my biggest test of all. I never had the intention of letting anyone see me fail, especially him. I took control of my life for the first time in years. We can get through anything in life, we have the strength within us to do so. We just have to believe it!
We will always come across conflict and turbulence in life. Getting there in one piece usually never happens, it’s just an extra journey. I see it as a scenic route at this point in life. We will end up getting to our destination in our own time, we just have to enjoy the journey. We can’t have a beautiful garden without a few rain showers along the way and when it blooms it will the most beautiful view you have ever seen.