Forgiveness

Posted on January 28, 2021 by Lighthouse Survivors

Forgiveness. It’s such an easy word to say but a harder action to do. We can hold on to so much anger and bitterness that we forget what peace is. When we hold onto anger all we do is hurt ourselves. We hurt our heart. We hurt our soul. We hurt what we hold so dear to us. So why is it so hard to forgive someone? For me, it means we have to come to terms with the hurt that it caused us. Sometimes anger seems easier than feeling of emotions of being hurt. Sounds crazy once you write it down and think about it. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that what they did was correct or warranted. It means you are able to forgive them for you.

Let me say that one more time. It means you are able to forgive them for yourself so you can move on in peace. Even I have a hard time remembering that when I need to forgive someone or even myself for that matter. Stop punishing yourself for what someone else did. Stop punishing yourself for something you did. You can’t change the past but you can accept it for what it actually is and not what we wish it could of been. In my past experience, it took me over 3 years to forgive my ex-husband. The hurt he caused, the damage, and darkness he added to my life. I held on to the anger. I held on to it all. It was easier to be angry at him instead of feeling the actual hurt. I hurt my own heart and inner peace in the process. I had no peace. The day I forgave him for myself was the day I felt the darkness dissolve from my soul. I accepted what had happened and all the emotions that came with it. Was it easy? not one bit of it was easy but my soul knew it was time.

It can be difficult to forgive someone who has hurt you but holding onto the anger and darkness that comes with it is a harder load to carry in your heart. Let it go. Find your inner peace. It’s time.